What Coaching High School Soccer Taught Me About Everything Else

What Coaching High School Soccer Taught Me About Everything Else
Posted on June 16, 2026

From Basketball High-Tops to the World Cup Stage: Lessons in Leadership, Learning, and Student Ownership

By Dr. Keith Adams — Coach | Athletic Administrator | Lifelong Learner


As the world's eyes turn to the 2026 FIFA World Cup, I find myself thinking about a group of teenagers who changed my life — and never once let me score a penalty kick.

For the first time in history, 48 nations will compete across three host countries: Canada, Mexico, and the United States. Millions will tune in to watch the world's greatest players battle on the biggest stage in sports.

I'll be watching too.

But my appreciation for the game didn't come from years of playing, tactical mastery, or elite coaching credentials. It came from a group of high school students at Paint Branch High School in Maryland — students who taught me what leadership, trust, and genuine learning really look like.

And it all started with a book called Soccer for Dummies.


The Least Qualified Soccer Coach in Maryland

I've always been a basketball guy.

Yet for three years, I served as both JV and Varsity Soccer Coach at Paint Branch High School — a role I was handed, not trained for.

The opportunity came from my Athletic Director, H.J. "Butch" Hillard, a leader with a rare gift for seeing potential in people before they saw it in themselves. He called me into his office one day and got straight to the point:

"I need a JV Soccer Coach. I want you to do it."

I was honest with him. "Butch, I've never played soccer beyond gym class. I don't know the first thing about coaching it."

His reply became one of the most important leadership lessons of my career:

"Go buy a soccer book. Bring me the receipt."

So I did. I bought Soccer for Dummies. I carried it everywhere. My players never let me forget it.

Fortunately, I had a tremendous mentor in Head Coach Steve Cain — a brilliant soccer mind and outstanding teacher. My role was different. I handled organization, paperwork, equipment management, and the operational details that kept the program moving. I recruited some of my basketball managers to help with inventory, and we made sure we ended every practice with the same number of soccer balls we started with.

Somewhere between the paperwork and the practices, something unexpected happened.

I fell in love with the game.

Not because of the book. Because my players taught it to me.


Leadership Lesson #1: Let Go and Let Them

My players came from all over the world — Latin America, Europe, Africa, and the Caribbean. Many competed in club soccer year-round. Some left our practices and went straight to another training session.

They knew far more about soccer than I ever would.

That left me with a clear choice: pretend I knew more than I did, or learn from them.

I chose to learn.

Instead of performing expertise I didn't have, I coached from curiosity. I asked questions. I listened. I let them teach me the nuances of the game — and in doing so, I gave them something more valuable than instruction: ownership.

Former player Brian Marchica put it well: "You possess the intangibles that players need in a coach. Fitness, being a leader, getting the most out of your players — all qualities you displayed coaching a sport you essentially knew nothing about."

That experience became a cornerstone of what would later evolve into the CKA Model and The CKA SAVE Project's framework for student ownership and leadership development. People thrive when they are trusted. Students rise when they have meaningful ownership. Athletes become leaders when adults create space for them to lead.

I later carried this lesson into basketball through a concept called Saturday League — where players coached themselves while staff members simply officiated and observed.

The roots of student ownership didn't start in a classroom. They started on a soccer field.


Leadership Lesson #2: Culture Is Built Through Joy

Soccer players and basketball players are different. My players made sure I knew it — especially when I showed up wearing basketball high-tops to practice.

Every session followed the same structure: 30 minutes of stretching and conditioning, 30 minutes of drills, 30 minutes of full-field competition.

And every practice ended the exact same way.

I would walk to the penalty spot in my basketball shoes and challenge our goalkeeper, Tim Mann.

If I scored, the team ran. If Tim saved it, practice was over.

The players loved it. Mostly because practice ended on time. And because Tim always won.

Former player Seye Aluko remembers it well: "Always ended practice with your penalty kick against Tim Mann, wearing high-top basketball shoes. Pretty good season somehow — your first year — despite never owning a pair of soccer cleats in your life."

For the record, I still maintain I scored once. Tim disagrees.

But the truth of that moment doesn't matter nearly as much as the truth it revealed: Culture isn't built solely through accountability. It's built through joy.

The best teams laugh together. The best organizations celebrate together. The best leaders understand that people perform at their highest levels when they genuinely enjoy being part of something bigger than themselves.

That principle is woven into every initiative we build through The CKA SAVE Project.


Leadership Lesson #3: You Don't Have to Know Everything to Lead

I didn't fully understand the offside rule. I couldn't diagram sophisticated formations. I was not the tactical expert in the room.

What I did understand was relationships. Culture. And how to create environments where people wanted to give their best.

Former player Christos Xenohristos described it clearly: "Your ability to listen to us and be one of us — but stay in charge when it mattered. That's what I remember most."

Leadership isn't pretending to have all the answers. Leadership is creating the conditions where the best answers can emerge.

This lesson has followed me across every role I've held. When I was later asked to oversee Career and Technical Education programs spanning disciplines I had never taught, I relied on the same approach: trust experts, empower people, stay curious, keep learning.

It is one of the core beliefs that drives The CKA SAVE Project's work with students, educators, and athletic programs: You don't need to know everything to lead effectively. You need to be willing to learn.

Leadership Lesson #4: Common Purpose Matters More Than Common Background

Our soccer roster looked like the world. Different countries. Different cultures. Different languages. Different playing styles.

Yet every player willingly set aside individual preferences to pursue a common goal: representing Paint Branch High School and winning together.

That team reinforced a lesson I return to constantly: Success does not require uniformity. It requires unity.

People do not need the same beliefs, backgrounds, or experiences to achieve something extraordinary together. They need a shared purpose.

When organizations focus on removing barriers, creating access, and aligning around shared outcomes, remarkable things become possible. This is at the heart of the CKA mission — whether we are working with students, educators, coaches, or school systems. The goal is always the same: help people discover their strengths, take ownership of their growth, and contribute to something larger than themselves.


The Penalty Kick That Never Went In

As the World Cup unfolds, matches will be decided by penalty kicks. Entire nations will hold their breath.

And every time I watch, I'll think about Tim Mann — standing calmly in goal on a hot Maryland afternoon while I launched another shot into the wrong zip code.

Again. And again. And again.

Those moments remind me that some of life's greatest lessons come from experiences we never expected to have.

A Legacy of Gratitude

Recently, former players shared memories from those years. Their reflections were humbling.

Moyo Aluko remembered the structure and organization: "You're very organized. Even if soccer wasn't a sport you played, you brought the same basketball sense of trying to be organized. Soccer for Dummies — whatever it takes."

Andreas Salazar offered a reflection that captures both the experience and the lasting impact:

"When I look back on my freshman year playing under Coach Adams, a few things stand out. Coach Adams showed up to practice in his signature basketball outfit: a gray cotton T-shirt, mesh basketball shorts, and thick-soled high-tops. Despite having limited soccer knowledge, he quickly earned my respect because he wasn't afraid to lean on the players to help teach and develop the team. More importantly, he built a strong team culture — we always had each other's backs. Most of all, he made the game fun. My favorite tradition was how he ended practice by taking a penalty kick against us. I can't say I remember him scoring even once. Coach Adams taught us that great coaching isn't just about knowing the game — it's about building trust, accountability, and a team that enjoys playing together." — Andreas Salazar, Former Player, Paint Branch High School

Their words reinforced something I have believed throughout my career: People rarely remember your expertise. They remember how you made them feel. Whether you listened. Whether you cared. Whether you believed in them — and helped them believe in themselves.

Those same principles are at the heart of everything we do through The CKA SAVE Project: student ownership frameworks, mentoring programs, leadership development, and performance coaching for athletes and educators alike.

Beyond the World Cup

As I watch the world's greatest soccer tournament, I won't simply see goals, tactics, and championships.

I'll see young people teaching an inexperienced coach. I'll see leadership built on humility. I'll see ownership developed through trust. I'll see joy in the creation of culture. I'll see diverse individuals united by a common purpose.

And I'll see the lesson that continues to guide every initiative we build: The best leaders are lifelong learners.

To Coach Steve Cain. To Butch Hillard. To Tim Mann. To Brian, Christos, Seye, Moyo, Andreas, and every player who ever laughed at one of my penalty kicks —

Thank you. You taught me far more than soccer. You taught me lessons that continue to shape my life, my leadership, and the mission of The CKA SAVE Project.

I am yesterday, today, and forever grateful.

And Tim — one more PK?


— Dr. Keith Adams Founder, CKA | Coach | Educator | Lifelong Learner

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